there is more than one perspective which i kindly pointed out. there are people out there like me, who take a degree of offense to being pitied or something. so if you want to respect the families, respect them all. not just one. but pleasing everyone is next to impossible isnt it? if anything, you could put a disclaimer on the video. or make a censored version. i know this incident isnt about me, i never said it was. but there was a time it was about me (so they said) as i was one of the families they thought they were respecting. i was just sharing a similar experience. not everyone needs or wants to be protected. dont tell me what i should or shouldnt see and use my deceased family as an excuse why. thats my perspective and im sure there are many others who have the same one as me. i know that perspective isnt the only one. it may not be the most popular either. but that doesnt mean it is any more or less important than any other. sorry if i was misunderstood. i did not mean to sound disrespectful. i did not wish to argue with anyone either. not fellow t-ara fans and not over a tragedy.